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The desire of knowledge is to the mind as hunger is to the body. Unless it be atrophied, every human has a natural desire to explore those realms open to the intellect, to feed upon history, literature, nature, science, art, other persons, and ultimately God. \u201cFor this is eternal life, to know God.\u201d<sup>2<\/sup> The mind feeds and grows, assimilating knowledge as food. But this process can be cut short. Just as, for the sake of breathing, a body will give up eating; so, a mind will give up learning when faced with threats to belonging and\/or esteem. While a few might bury their heads in the books to escape the pain of not belonging or to seek the accolades of \u201cfirst in class\u201d as a feeble substitute for being esteemed, none will thrive in such an atmosphere.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Positively, we get the great majority of knowledge not from personal discovery but from communion with others. In Charlotte Mason\u2019s words:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>We learn from Society. In this way we learn, for most people have things to say that it is good to hear; and we should have something to produce from our own stores that will interest others \u2013 something we have seen or heard, read or thought\u2026 It is not only from the best and ablest we may learn. I have seen ill-bred people in a room, and even at table, who had nothing to say because they did not think their neighbor worth talking to\u2026 This is not only unmannerly and unkind, but is foolish, and a source of loss to themselves. Perhaps there is no one who has not some bit of knowledge or experience, or who has not had some thought, all his own. A good story is told of Sir Walter Scott, how he was travelling from London to Edinburgh by the stagecoach and sharing the box seat with him was a man who would not talk. He tried the weather, crops, politics, books, every subject he could think of\u2013\u2013and we may be sure they were many. At last, in despair, he turned round with, &#8220;Well, what can you talk about, sir?&#8221; &#8220;Bent leather,&#8221; said the man; and, added Sir Walter, &#8220;we had one of the most interesting conversations I remember.&#8221; Everybody has his &#8216;bent leather&#8217; to talk about if we have the gift to get at it.<sup>3<\/sup><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This story is both tragic and beautiful: tragic because a man had such a small world of interest, and beautiful, because another person cared enough to find even that small world and be interested. One can speculate that small worlds come from small communities of interest. If no one cares for a child\u2019s thoughts, his thoughts will become small, and he will inhabit a small and lonely world. Our personal world is only as big as the worlds we share. To be deeply satisfying, knowledge is a shared endeavor.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Teachers should remember this; for we experience ourselves as belonging to those who are interested enough to share interests with us. Lack of interest destroys belonging. Those whom we hold in high regard interest us. Those who do not interest us experience us as holding them in low regard. Let us endeavor to find the \u201cbent leather\u201d in every student\u2019s mind. And let us give them a vast array of knowledge in which to share interest. Nothing builds esteem and belonging like the experience of genuine interest. You are interested in what I think. You are interested in what I feel. Not for any utilitarian reason, but simply because you find me to be of value. Few thoughts, conscious or unconscious, bring joy to the heart as do these.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If one seeks to build an atmosphere of belonging, find something in every person that is worthy of interest. Not all thoughts and feelings are noble. Not all are worthy of interest. When we share ignoble, unworthy interests, we may negatively bond, but we do not delight in one another. Two may share disdain for a third, but that disdain contaminates the relationship not only with the third person but also between the two sharing the disdain. There must be no toleration in the classroom of disdainful attitudes and certainly not disdainful talk. Such attitudes and words must be confronted immediately as a dark, hurtful way of thinking and talking. Students must learn that just because a dark thought crosses their mind does not mean they have to accept it. Thoughts can be rejected, and the mind turned to that which is worthy.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If genuine interest in me (my thoughts, my feelings, my interests, and activities) builds belonging and esteem, it is augmented by appreciation. When someone sees within us that which is worth appreciating and expresses appreciation, our hearts soar. Appreciation of others is a habit of mind and so is contempt. All humans are both bearers of the divine image and selfish, frail incompetents. The question is what do we see when we see another. Where does our mind go? Do we have the habit of sweet thoughts, quick to find the good and appreciate, merciful with the flaws? Or are we quick to see the failings, to mock in our mind, and to disdain. What do we see, and what do we express? In so many classrooms it is only the negative and the extraordinary that get expressed. We hear little appreciation for small kindnesses and small victories, little gratitude for the small contribution that each can make. What is called for is not praise as reward for success (a response that quickly cheapens), but genuine appreciation for a rigorous effort, quietly expressed. As important as it is to identify student weakness, teachers will never be a positive support if they fail to see and to appreciate that which is worthy in every child. No classroom is emotionally safe where even a single student is not appreciated.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Just as we build interest by being interested together, so we build appreciation by sharing appreciation. We need to hear what we appreciate about each another. In this, the teacher must take the lead. Not a day should go by in which she does not publicly express concrete appreciation for some worthy trait of a student. This is not praise for performance or appearance, but recognition that some aspect of a fine and noble character has manifested itself. \u201cJohn, I see your noble heart to serve others.\u201d Or \u201cKathy, I appreciate your sensitivity to the needs of others.\u201d In addition to expressing appreciation themselves, teachers should gently exhort students to express appreciation for one another. Ideas should be sown, and habits cultivated. Expression of appreciation can be made a topic for regular prayer. \u201cLord, give us the grace to appreciate one another and opportunity to express it.\u201d It can also be an object of direct challenge. \u201cLet us invite the Lord to show us something we can appreciate about one of our classmates. Look for an opportunity to express that appreciation.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>When our classes are not places of shared interest and appreciation and lack the joys of shared thoughts\/feelings and delight in one another, the atmosphere goes dark, and students begin to feed upon one another. A vicious cycle begins. Increased relational pain results in further loss of interest and lessened ability to appreciate, leading to greater, deeper relational pain. As relational pain increases, so does predatory behavior. Preying upon one another becomes the norm and the habit.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>The teacher must lead the move against such things. He or she must be an anchor of emotional joy and strength, a strong protector. She must model interest and appreciation; always able to see that which is worthy in a child and joyfully to communicate that recognition. She must lead her students in the habits of genuine interest and appreciation of good and true knowledge. A final note: the daily habit of giving thanks can go a long way towards achieving these ends. Students must give more time to expressing appreciation for the good in persons and things than to disdaining that which they do not like.<a href=\"#_ftnref1\" name=\"_ftn1\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Bill St. Cyr<\/p>\n<p>Ambleside Founder and Director of Training[\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=&#8221;30&#8243;][vc_separator width_in_percentages=&#8221;yes&#8221;][vc_empty_space height=&#8221;30&#8243;][vc_column_text]<sup>1<\/sup> Charlotte Mason, <em>Home Education,<\/em> (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., 1989) 100-101.<\/p>\n<p><sup>2<\/sup> John 17:3.<\/p>\n<p><sup>3<\/sup> Charlotte Mason, <em>Ourselves,<\/em> (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., 1989) 73-75.[\/vc_column_text][vc_raw_html]JTVCeWFycHAlNUQ=[\/vc_raw_html][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Charlotte Mason identifies three primary human desires: the desire of knowledge, the desire of society (belonging), and the desire of esteem (to be held in high regard).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":2141,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[15,6,12],"tags":[83,84,82,81],"class_list":["post-2140","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ambleside-method","category-bill-st-cyr","category-philosophy","tag-belonging","tag-esteem","tag-knowledge","tag-philosophy"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Education and the Three Desires - Ambleside International<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"It was a beautiful week. 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